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Viral scares me shitless

Go visible, or go home!

Backroom, or front of house?

A comment on a group I created popped into my head this morning, how starting a business is hard for us ‘backroom’ people. Now I have no problem meeting people, I can network with the best of them, have been in customer facing positions for years, but this isn’t really the same thing when you are starting your business. Visibility takes on a new meaning nowadays, it’s about being seen online, being ‘outthere’, having a social media presence isn’t just about what you write, but people want to see you, they want to know what you look like.

Personality is what people need to see, they aren’t so much buying your expertise, but the experience which you can give them, and they are looking for someone they can relate to, someone they feel inspired by.

Are you my muse?

game over guru
game over guru!

Years ago people were looking for a guru, looking for someone who was going to tell them how to live their life, they wanted a structure, to be told what to do, a god-like figure to save them. Now people are more focused on finding someone who they can be inspired by, not just the persons business but them as a person.

It’s not just about what they do, people are wanting to buy a lifestyle

People want to join a tribe, they want to be part of something, not just following a person, feeling like they are part of a team, changing together, evolving together.

Perfection isn’t what people want.

People are no longer looking for the person who is impeccable, people are looking for someone that is pure in intention but are happy to see their flaws, to see they are still a work in process, they may lead the tribe but they are by no means above them, looking down.

I am a sociable person, happy to talk to anyone, always the centre of a party, I am also very private about my personal life. so my main issue with being visible isn’t that I have to talk , I have way too much Leo in my chart to not like being on centre stage, the main issue I have is that you have no control online, once it’s out there it can be distorted, and at worse made viral.

Viral content is the holy grail for many, many ‘personalities’ want this to make their name because they need it, and it’s not always backed up with any substance.

Viral scares me shitless
Going viral scares me shitless

Nowadays even small deeds , good or bad can be recorded and posted, even if you are not posting it yourself, a good Samaritan takes a picture or a film and puts it out there. This can have its own legs, it can become a monster, I am not just talking about the negative side, positive deeds also don’t go unpunished, and lives can be put under a microscope by a well-meaning person who posts it.

I don’t like that microscope, maybe it’s in part an issue with control which might be the reason for the zombie dream (see that post here). Many people would love a moment of fame, me I prefer not to, I don’t mind being a big fish in a little pond, a party, an event, but out of the worldwide web….that’s another story, a scary story. It puts me off some small good deeds, lest someone has a smart phone and I find myself on the 5 o’clock news on a slow news day.

The issue is, to make the changes I want in the world, I have to come out, I have to be seen, I have to share the knowledge.

So here lies the dilemma.

To be a game changer, to effect real change in the sphere I am passionate about (relationships & Mediumship), I need to bite the bullet, to suck it up.

So I am going to have to put myself out there, driven by the desire to share my knowledge, to help others, leaving a positive footprint in the world. So again, another mindset change….

So this is my new challenge, and yes I will bring you along.

Zombies attacked me

Are you ‘The Walking Dead’?

fighting zombies
a zombie apocalypse

I have a zombie dream, when this happens I wake up and know exactly what the issue is……my world is changing, life as I know it is ending and this is scary. Although I am a heavily fixed sign person, I pride myself my new found flexibility, this is a reminder that deep down it’s still a struggle.

We all know how our dreams can show us what is happening in our subconscious mind, what perhaps we aren’t ready, or willing to see or deal with. Dreams can unpack these issues, and you always know when this is happening because you wake up using going WTF!!

The Zombie dream is fairly common, it’s in the same category as the following:

  • Falling but never hitting the ground
  • Teeth falling out
  • Climbing steps but not ever getting anywhere
  • Being naked in public

These are all anxiety dreams, we often wake up freaked out, and If you had the teeth dream, you will first be checking that they are still there and not on your pillow!

These never happen just once, they tend to be re-occurring nightmares, sometimes they can last years, popping up at times of stress often returning night after night.

Each type of dream focuses on a particular type of anxiety and stress, I will write about the other variations another time, for now let’s focus on the undead.

Seeing zombies always highlights issues of CONTROL.

Are you the Zombie?

Dreaming you are the undead, is showing that you’re not fully ‘living’ in your waking life, you are detached emotionally and/or physically from people or situations, not fully engaged and present.

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Since this is about avoidance, simply to look at areas of your life that you are trying to run away from or simply ignore. Writing is a really good way of expressing your feelings, anything that’s mindful will help you engage in life again, and connect to the situation that is causing you to feel so removed.

Is your friend the Zombie?

If you are seeing someone you know that as a zombie, it talks about your relationship is hollow, so although they might still be physically present in your life, the connection itself, or rather your feelings for them have ‘died’.

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Is it time you review your relationships? In time we change, so do our relationships, and we can simply outgrow a person or situation. This dream is saying that you haven’t fully acknowledged this, and this is often all you need to do, let the connection fade and step back. If you like rituals, write a letter/email to your friend, explaining the reasons for not wanting them in your life, and thanking them for their past friendship….I don’t recommend you send it (if you write an email take care not to hit ‘send’!!) , dispose of it in a way you feel appropriate, I often rip it up or burn it.

Attacked by Zombies?

Are you the hero battling the hordes of the undead, but however many you kill, there are always more, when will it end? When will you kill them all? This is about your feelings of being overwhelmed by a situation that is (or feels like) beyond your control, feeling helpless.

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This dream is showing you are in a transition state, things in your life are ‘dying’ and endings we often find hard as we don’t always know what is coming in. We can’t control everything in our lives, and to really explore these feelings you need to work out what you can control and what you need to let go and surrender. Sometimes making a list will help us understand, and therefore let go, of worries about situations we can’t control, therefore we can focus on what we can change.

Have you had your zombie apocalypse yet? We have 8 months of Mars retrograding, mostly in Scorpio the home of our deepest darkest fears, and desires, so don’t be surprised if you have to fight your way through the undead at some point this year!

(Since any issues of control are fear based, this might be a great time to seek out a qualified therapist to talk through these fears in a safe and supportive environment.)

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